Accountability: Finding a Coach to Help You Stay On Track

Everyone should have at least ONE accountability coach

Me and my ONE of my accountability coaches.I can tell that my oldest daughter is going to help keep me accountable through this whole blogging experience. She may not live close enough to be my official “ADHD accountability coach”, but she has already sent me a text message once saying “It’s been 5 days. Post something.”

Accountability is crucial to the successes of someone struggling with ADD/ADHD. There is nothing that can help most people more than to have an accountability “coach”. Maybe even several coaches. Unfortunately for me, not only did I not know that ADHD was my issue until I was well into my 30’s, but once I  did become aware of it, I felt like I had to figure out how to deal with it on my own.

As time goes by, I am finally getting the fact that I need couches to hold me accountable. This is not an easy task because we are all busy. But I have started asking several different people to help me in certain areas of my life.

Different coaches for different corners of your life

At work, it’s the person I report to. She is not only my “boss” but she is also a wonderful friend. I recently sat down and talked to her about my struggles and how they affect me at work. Although i do manage to fulfill my responsibilities, it is far from easy. I know she will help where she can.

As I mentioned before, my amazing daughter (pictured with me above) is helping me keep on top of my online life. She is on her social media a lot anyway, so she is the perfect coach for this area of my life.

I have recently found the courage to ask my husband to help me stay on top of the things I need to get done at home. Most of you who are married probably understand how difficult this was.

It sometimes makes me frustrated when I think about the fact that I am unable to stay focused on my own. I feel like it is a lack of self-discipline on my part. Sometimes that actually is the case. More often, however, it is a matter of not being able to focus, or becoming overwhelmed with the enormity of the tasks at hand and not knowing where to start. Praise God for these people in my life that are willing to help where they are able.

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Fascination with Electronics

It Started Early

I believe that hyper-focus is very much an issue for me in certain situations.  I found a couple of supporting articles in case you are interested in researching further:

 

My issue with hyper-focus presents itself primarily with electronics; specifically with computers.

Electronics 1When I was in high school, I lived with my grandmother on my dad’s side of the family. She bought me a VIC-20, and then a COMMADORE-64. I remember sitting in front of the television (that was the monitor back then) and writing lines and lines of code at the age of 15 just to make a ball bounce across the screen . And I knew at the end of the day, or if we had a power outage, that my hours of work would be gone. I had no way of saving the program.

Electronics 2Then the day came! My grandmother happened to work for IBM. The day came that IBM offered their first home computer to employees (at a discounted price I am sure). She brought one home for me! I sat in front of that computer for hours and hours with nothing but a three-ring-binder copy of the IBM DOS user manual to refer to and taught myself to program in BASIC.

I have been fascinated with computers ever since. A lot of people I know that work with computers want nothing to do with them when they get home because they have been working on them all day. For the most part, I could sit in front of a computer and work on it 24 hours a day if I allowed myself to and be content.

Absent-Minded

Hyper-focus can be a wonderful thing. But on the other hand, it can also be a dangerous curse. When I was a young adult, hyper-focus caused me to be late for EVERYTHING. I would get so engrossed at the task at hand that I could set an alarm to be on time for something, it goes off, and before I could get out the door (or sometimes off the couch for that matter), my mind would return to the task I was working on and I would completely forget the alarm ever went off. I’ll leave you with the clip from “Flubber” below. It is so funny on film, but in reality it is a downright depressing situation for both the person dealing with it and the people around them:

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