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Relationships – Don’t Take Them for Granted

Relationships Take Work

Relationships are hard.Relationships are the most important and yet the most difficult thing we face in life. Why are they so difficult?

I think the bottom line is our thinking. We spend way too much time thinking about ourselves. How do others actions affect us? A friend of mine posted an article from another blog on Facebook recently and I hope that you will take the time to read it. I have added it to the bottom of this post.

I think we get so frustrated over the little things because of pride. In the article the Debbie Wilkins Baisden talks about the frustration she felt over finding her husbands clothes on the floor.  Who hasn’t gotten frustrated over some minute habit that their spouse has.

We get frustrated because WE don’t like how that habit or action makes US feel. We think “that habit or action is inconvenient for ME”.  Debbie takes this attitude of our hearts in this article and  really puts this into perspective.

Imagine you are the one that is annoyed by finding your spouses clothes on the floor. First of all, is it really that big of a deal? It annoys you. It would be nice if your spouse had stopped at the very moment the clothes were plummeting to the floor and thought about how it was going to make you feel. But let’s be honest. Do you really believe that his or her thought process was “Ah ha!!! Another opportunity to drive my spouse nuts!!”

Too often we spend so much time focusing on the things that drive us crazy and not enough time appreciating the things that make us happy.

Let’s Not Take Them for Granted

Life is too short. Relationships are hard and they take work. We will never be happy in any relationship for long if we don’t learn to fix the things in ourselves that are contributing to the issues.

I challenge you (and myself): At that very next moment when we are tempted to blow a gasket over some little thing our spouse does, lets take a second to think about how easy we are to live with. And in addition to that, think about how important that little issue would be tomorrow if we woke up and didn’t have to worry about it anymore because our loved one was no longer with us.

Please read Debbie’s article: Stop Being a Butthole Wife [Spouse].