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The Whole Truth and Nothing But the Truth

Define Truth

What is truth? Marridiam-Webster Defines it like this:

Clip from truth definition on Merriam-Webster website.
Mirriam-Webster’s Definition of Truth

Proving That YOUR Truth is THE Truth

I have a tendency to overthink some things. Okay, okay. I overthink EVERYTHING. And recently I found myself in the middle of a debate on the topic of vaccinations.

We all have to make our own decisions on these big issues based on what we believe and what we know.  And sometimes what we know to be true may not actually be true.

Let’s just say that you have done a lot of extensive research, This is a very good place to start when trying to get to the truth of any topic.  But this is just the beginning. WHERE do you do your research? The internet? A library? The problem becomes who wrote the books or the website article that you are reading? How do you know this person is credible? Where did they go to school?

How is it that two people in the same profession with the same credibility can have two opposing “truths” about the same subject? Bottom line? There are facts. There are real things, events and facts that cannot be refuted. They are scientifically provable or visually observable. But even in science there are many un-provable  theories that scientists will tell you that they believe to be truth beyond a reasonable doubt because of what they have learned and observed in relationship to those theories. In faith, there are un-provable beliefs that Christian ( myself included) believe to be true beyond ANY doubt , because we can feel it in the core of our being.

When something is true, it doesn’t matter if we believe it or not. It is true either way.  And if we find ourselves on one side of a debate that even scientists may not be able to prove or disprove,  should we get angry or upset over the fact that someone else doesn’t believe it to be true? A person who is an Atheist or a Christian has nothing to gain or lose over convincing someone else that what they believe is true except for bragging right.  And a bruised ego is the only reason we get upset if we feel like we have lost the argument.

As Christians, we are commanded to spread the Gospel throughout the land. We are not commanded to force people to believe. And although we are saddened if they are not convinced that God is Truth, we definitely don’t need to get angry over it. And let’s be honest. It doesn’t do much for our testimony.

Not So Cut and Dry

But what if there is more of an opinion in the hot button topic than a solid truth? What about doing things in public that effect others? Smoking, talking on your telephone, texting while walking down the street, going out into a crowd when you have a bad cold and an uncontrollable cough?  Or how about washing our hands when we are done using a rest room (don’t get me started)?

It isn’t just a matter of what we believe is true or right, but then we have to also take into account how it effects others. Let’s be honest. Only someone who is totally not thinking (I am occasionally guilty of talking or texting while walking because I don’t think about what I am doing. Not going to lie.), has never taught better, or is just plain  narcissist would neglect to consider others in these situations.

With the issue of vaccinations, however,  it is a lot more complicated. No matter which side of the isle you fall on this one, it is cut and dry. If you are of the mindset that vaccinations are actually poison to you and your children, how can you possibly comply with the insistence that you or they be injected. If, on the other hand, you believe that the vaccinations have been a true blessing in annihilating diseases and have little risk of complication, how can you stand the thought of your child interacting with someone in a public situation who has chosen NOT to get these shots?

No mater what you believe to be true about vaccinations, I don’t know anyone that is willing to play Russian Roulette with their child’s life.

I would really appreciate it if you did not bombard me with emails about why what you believe is right. Just take away from this post that there are always two sides to every coin. And in both cases, the belief is very real and true to your opponent. Their are two sides to every coin. Even if yours is the right side, be empathetic to the fact that things look very different on the other side.

In the Middle of a Storm

Lighthouse in the StormLighthouse in the Middle of the Storm

We actually never know what is going to happen next in life. But we usually have a pretty good idea. Right now, I am writing this blog entry from a place of personal destitution. I am in the middle of a storm and I can’t see anything up ahead accept a very bright light from the top of a Lighthouse. God is in control. I have to keep my focus on that light and eventually the storm will clear.

In a matter of just a few hours, everything went from normal to a complete blackout in my life. I am sure you have been here before. I am feeling lost, discouraged, empty, and pretty much worthless.

For anyone who has ever felt this way before, or maybe you feel this way right now, I want you to know something. There is a greater purpose for your life than what is happening at this moment.

The Storm that Almost Swallowed Me Whole

I remember feeling this badly once before in my life. At the age of 18, I decided that I just HAD to be independent because that is the type of person I am. I got a job, moved out on my own and hit the ground running.

What I didn’t know is that life was HARD. I lived in an efficiency apartment that cost me $100/month in rent. I was making about $93 a week in wages.  Finances became an issue when I ended up in the hospital for an appendectomy.  My love life was a mess. And I was not handling the adult-ING thing very well at all.

At some point, that storm became so dark that I figured the world would be a lot better off without me in it. I took every bottle out of the cupboards that I could find, sat down and took them all and just waited.

Only by the grace of God was my life spared that day. My mother called me and as we were talking, she could tell something was very wrong. I kept insisting that I was fine, but she wasn’t buying it. She called my uncle, and he and his wife came to my apartment. All I remember is walking down the street with them at my sides, trying to get me to sober up. They had no idea what was wrong with me.

Then next thing I remember is waking up in the ICU a day or two later. My throat was killing me and I had nasty remnants of black charcoal all over the inside of my mouth.

That day, God chose to spare my life.  It took me several years to realize what he did for me that day. It took me several years to realize who He is; who I am.

Finding the truth about who you are won’t make the world you live in storm-free. But it WILL give you a Lighthouse to follow through EVERY storm that comes along. You just have to look for it and keep your focus on it.

Right Here Right Now

This storm is going to pass for me. And your storm will pass for you. If you can’t see the lighthouse, I encourage you to open your heart.  You DON’T have to clean up your act to find God. You DON’T have to give up whatever vices you may be clinging to, to find God. It is about having a RELATION with Him, not having RELIGION! Right where you are, right now, you can cry out to Him and be completely transparent with Him about how you feel. Tell Him right now, right where you are, that you want to know who He is. Tell Him that you want to have a relationship with Him. You will be amazed at how bright that light will shine.

If you have decided today is the day you will start a relationship with Him, I encourage you to tell someone close to you. You’re never too old, too young, or too lost and it is never too late.