If It Isn’t in the Schedule, It Doesn’t Get Done
Ok. So I told you I wouldn’t post every day. So I will number these posts instead of day. Living with an ADD requires extremely regimented scheduling. This is something I have down pat on school and work days, for my morning routine anyway. Beyond that I am still working on it.
However, a day like today, when I am going out-of-town with a friend and don’t have to work it is extremely hard just stay focused. I need a specific time planned that everything needs to be done. A personal assistant would be great because doing that on my own is not a very successful angle.
My friend (Hi Carol!) is coming to pick me up at 10:45ish. As I sit here writing this post, it is 10:30. I have managed to take my youngest son to school, clean off my dresser and a storage chest in my room, do a load of laundry, pack my things, and write this post. Since we are only going away for one night, the packing didn’t take long, and it is a miracle that I got that much done. And I have been up since 5am.
I have tried everything from a million different apps, a paper and pen check list, and a million other tactics with little success. I know it is getting better, but not fast enough for me.
The absolute biggest problem for me is overcoming the enormity of a task. When a task is too big, I just cannot seem to see it in small steps. I become overwhelmed, just shut down and nothing gets done.
This has been the story of my life. So for those of you with little guys and gals that struggle in this area, I recommend giving projects in small tasks one at a time, perhaps in the form of a checklist . Seeing things on a checklist give me a sense of accomplishment and encourages me to do more.
First Blog Topic – ADHD
Today I am starting my bog. Let me start by telling you that I have ADHD. I am not a doctor. I can’t tell you if you or a loved one has ADHD. I can only share my experiences with you and hope that it helps you in some way; that it servers a purpose.
I have wanted to blog ever since there has been such a thing, but I could never figure out what it was exactly that I wanted to share with the world. Now I know why. I am not able to shut my brain down. I fall asleep thinking about one thing or another every night. I wake up thinking about something else. I can very rarely focus on a task for any extended period of time if it is not something that interests me. On the contrary, if it IS something that interests me, I become hyper focused. And woe be unto you if you try to distract me from the task at hand. My children can attest to this all too well.
I am becoming better and better at controlling this as time goes by, but it is not without deliberately attempting to do so. I really have to stop myself and think about it. If you have a child that struggles with this, I have to tell you that without a coach or even the information that this is what was going on with me, I am still trying to figure it out at the age of…heh hem, coming up on the big five-oh.
Pros and Cons
Believe it or not, there are actually a couple of things that are positive about it.
- I have a LOT of ideas. Some of them are really good ones. With all of the extra thinking my brain does, it becomes easier to think “outside the box”.
- I am ambitious. Overly so. That whole Jack of all trades, master of none? Yeah, that me.
- I LOVE to learn new things. Being in an IT profession, I often joke about being able to just plug my brain into the computer so I can just “download” all the information I want to learn. That is about the only way I will be able to get through everything I want to learn in my lifetime.
- Being a teacher, I am starting to understand how my experiences with this condition can help other teachers and parents to understand what the children that have ADHD are going through and how they can help them.
But there is much that is not so positive. Here are just a few of them.
- I have spent a lifetime frustrated. Until recently, I have been very down on myself for not being able to accomplish things that I wanted to get done.
- I forget things, hourly
- Organization is an insurmountable feat
- I am a Christian, but my prayer life is extraordinarily sporadic. Quite time? Non-existent.
- I get cranky when people try to talk to me and I am in the middle of a task.
Hopefully blogging about it will help you too. =)